Love is…

Love is an action verb. To have a successful relationship love must be put in to action daily. The Gottman Institute has been studying marriages and committed partnerships for decades. They state small, daily gestures is the key to successful long term relationships. 

Not seeing that in your relationship?  That’s where I step in. As a therapist trained in the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, I seek out individual developmental stages and guide each partner to create a goal that will benefit the relationship. I cheer each partner on as you all make good on your commitment to achieving individual goals. The end result is movement towards true intimacy.  That’s when partners feel safe enough to be vulnerable. WHEW! That is major. We all come with family of origin stuff. Some of us may not be aware of how much family and childhood influence adult personality. Maybe you are aware of the impact your childhood has had on your adult psych and you may be asking if your partner is truly ready to handle all of that jelly. A good question. You will only know the answer to it when you take risks and allow your partner to see you and all of your greatness. Still unsure if you can be vulnerable or how your partner will respond? Why not book a free 15 minute consultation with me.

When you come see me I want to get a sense of what you want to achieve in therapy and what individual contributions you can make to see that goal take place. You are one step away from moving from wishful thinking to wonderful discoveries about the self and your relationship.